>>4901
>Meet people through your interests
This. If you're going to meet people at all, meeting people you consider to have good taste is a plus.
>Some will be insufferable, but some will be worth keeping around
Exactly. When I joined my local furry communities, while the majority of people weren't impressive, the minority of people that were worth keeping around were truly wonderful, lovely people.
>museums, parks
Good things. Since anon 4900 says he's into games, he might perhaps also play games with others.
>Serious friendships take time, and serious effort to build, effort that may not see immediate payoff.
This. Finding a pleasant acquaintance definitely takes less time than forming a real friendship. I think for people who are truly compatible, however, there is some amount of immediate payoff.
>But there's no strength in ignoring everyone and shutting yourself in.
I disagree. Before I became very social (but still an introvert) a few years ago, I thought I was on the path to becoming a wizard. I was quite shut-in. (though I did have online friends) And there certainly are some advantages to it.
If you really want to be a shut-in, you can do a lot with your hobbies and totally get rid of all the negative qualities of humans from your life.
It's a life.
>Human beings are social animals
Agreed, as a whole. I really think most humans should socialize. I fully support anyone who decides not to, though.
I think modern US society is messed up. The way most people in the US live today, in medieval Europe, would've been called being a hermit. Hermits living in their hermitages. While most humans are social animals, most adults in the US have no friends, as they live in rural or suburban locations where it takes half an hour to go anywhere interesting, and they don't know any of their neighbors. I support anyone who actually wants to be a hermit, but for most people, this is truly awful, and it's clearly having terrible mental effects on people, both normalfags and not. (And while I dislike normalfags, I don't want them to needlessly suffer)
I hope society can abandon eremitism some day.
>We're meant to have families
I disagree. The modern nuclear family is partially an invention.
>live in communities with other people we care about
This, I agree with.
>focus on hobby boards
Blue boards truly are the best ones on 4chan, for sure.
>It worked out for me, but generally speaking, 4chan porn threads are not a good place to meet friends.
I don't fully agree with this though. Over the decade I've been on 4chan, I've certainly exchanged email addresses and IRC contact information with people in porn threads and had friendships for a while. And I hope /hmofa/ can be more than a porn thread to you: I'm there because I want to find inspiration to write more sci-fi. I only found /hmofa/ earlier in 2022, however. I like it so far, though.